Hands on date

  My determination to find a friend and maybe something more was not discouraged by the two previous dates.  My mind was made up that somewhere out there was someone who I could connect with on various levels.  I started noticing a pattern on the flakeir men, they always wanted to know too much personal information about body size and parts and this was a red flag that this person was not someone I could date.
  Then came Ben.  He was so funny with his emails.  We exchanged numbers and had long conversations that were filled with laughter.  I thought, wow this guy is great.  I looked at his picture and he was not someone I would be drawn to, but his personality was wonderful.  He invited me out for a burger and a drink, and I got up the nerve to go.
  We made plans to meet outside the resturant and he was on time.  He gave me hug and his in person personality seemed to match the online and phone persona.  Over dinner we discovered we had more in common then we thought.  I felt so comfortable with him.
  He invited back to his place to watch a dvd, but I declined.  I was not ready yet.  I told him, I was sorry but I was not even willing to let him know where I lived yet, so going to his place was not going to happen this quickly.  He seemed to understand.
  For the next few weeks, we talked on the phone daily and went out for a few more meals.  On one night he invited me out for ice cream and I gladly accepted.  The question to see a dvd afterwards came up again.  I sat there debating if I was ok with this and got carried away in the moment.  I followed him to his home in a nice part of town and he seemed to have the typical guy home.  Decorated with guy things a just a bit messy. 
  He lit candles, and put the movie in.  We sat on the sofa, and to be honest, I felt like I was 16 again.  So nervous to be in a man's apartment. 
  Ben seemed to be a perfect gentlemen at first.  He offered me something to drink and was behaving.  Then suddenly it happened.  He said he was getting more water, and did the old sneak a kiss thing.  All of the sudden I was trapped in his arms.  I don't think I would have minded a small peck but this seemed way too aggressive. 
I pushed him away, said I was not ready to go there and he just smiled.  We started watching the movie again and the hands began to creep again.  Again I was trapped in his arms and feeling like a trapped animal pushing him off me. 
He was not so understanding this time.  He got a little angry, asking what was I expecting since I agreed to go to his place.  I told him, I was expecting him to act like a gentlemen and that we were honestly going to watch that movie.  Ben had other plans.  He said afterall, he had bought a few dinners etc, and perhaps I just needed to relax and go with the flow. 
I started to leave and at the door was again trapped in his massive embrace.  He kept saying he could feel the connection between us....all I could feel was how difficult it was to get out of this embrace.

Finally I told him, to stop, and he actually asked me if I meant it.  I told him I was going to leave and yes I meant it.  As I left his house he followed he out asking me to come back and he would make everything better.  I got into my car locking the door and headed for home, thinking......geez is there any decent men out there?  So far  I have not found one,  but there are still over 100 emails to answer.